The Duchess Who Wasn’t Day is celebrated every year on August 27th.
This creatively named day celebrates the life of Margaret Wolfe Hungerford, a novelist who published most of her novels under the pen name of ‘The Duchess.’ (Source: National Today)
The idea of doing anything under a different name was what intrigued me to author this article, knowing in fact that I could easily write it anonymously, under a pen name (I’d likely choose something like ‘Black Star’ or ‘Songbird’), or perhaps even have a ghostwriter interpret my musings.
The pros and cons of this initiative are somewhat exciting. If I chose to do anything, under the guise of not being myself – then ‘What trouble could I stir up?’ or ‘What fun could I have?’.
Conversely, if I wasn’t myself – I might miss out on accolades and opportunities (both positive and negative) that I should rightfully own and experience.
Pause for a moment to consider where this may actually happen on a regular basis: Identical twins swap roles to ‘trick’ others; Actors take on roles to portray another (ex., historical re-enactments, documentaries, etc.)
‘Masked’ individuals hide their faces and features in an effort to conceal their identity, etc. The list goes on.
Pivoting, I’m reflecting on the world of make-believe – or a state of believing things that are not true.
Full disclosure, growing up, I may have said, ‘I’m a Princess.’ when clearly, I’m so much more than that! Or that ‘One day, I’m going to be the Prime Minister.’.
So, when, where, or how does a make-believe state turn into something believable? Hard work and tenacity with a bit of realism and opportunity threw into the mix. Translation: You can be anything you want to be – if you put your heart and soul into it.
Forbes Magazine published an article on Leadership Strategy that outlined ‘The 12 Things That Successfully Convert a Great Idea into a Reality. The key takeaways, with my own interpretation, were the following:
- Believe in Yourself
- Be inspired, motivated, or mentored by others. (Who says you have to reinvent the wheel?)
- Take strategic risks
- Find a realistic balance between being patient and responding to a sense of urgency.
- Learn how to articulate what you want. (Think what your 30-second elevator pitch might sound like. Practice it. Pitch it. Own it.)
- Small steps can lead you to your final destination. (But consider if a giant leap of faith is more your style – and ‘Go for it!’.)
- Be passionate and purposeful in your efforts. (This includes finding balance for your mind, body, and soul.)
- Keep moving – like the small steps – momentum is key – especially if/when you fall down. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get moving again.
- Consider alternatives. Contemplate what you’ve witnessed, researched, experienced, and learn and grow from that. Pivot where necessary.
- Leave a legacy
So, whether you’re a ‘Duchess who Wasn’t’ or some other make-believe persona – consider the reason and rationale behind it and work to either address it or make it a reality. Remember – You are unique, and no one else can be who you are.
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Jacqueline Biollo is a strategic consultant who believes in the power of people, possibility, and potential. She seeks to leave a legacy of optimism in the world through her work as a former politician, arts & culture enthusiast, and educator. She was a ‘Grand Honoured Queen’, once, with the International Order of Job’s Daughters. An organization whose mission is to empower confident young women, respect tradition, and shape the future. Jacqueline credits this and so many other life experiences with the invaluable skills that increased her confidence, prepared her to lead and encouraged her to use her voice.
